Sunday, October 16, 2011
In many cases, these friends themselves are dealing with that loss, albeit possibly not in the same way as the immediate family. How do you put your own grieving aside to do what needs to be done for others, and still give yourself some opportunity to process? I'm sure it's different in every case, but those of you who fill that role know that you just channel the energy and find a way.
Yesterday, after receiving a call about someone taking their own life, a song I've had in my iTunes for years came on - Hang On, by Plumb. YouTube Hang On- Plumb It was minutes after the call - seeming a little serendipitous. This moved me so deeply, but initial sadness was held back by the inspirational message within the lyrics and thoughts of the comfort you can bring by uttering the words in the title and text of the song, "hang on".
Don't underestimate the power you can have by helping someone gain perspective to hang on, and if your words or support don't seem to make a difference, don't stop trying. I recently read a quote, "if you're going through hell, keep walking." I think the rest of the quote should say, "because you'll eventually get through to a better place". The belief that there is a better option, a better way, something good on the other side, is the very thread that keeps most people hanging on. If that belief has been lost, things look dark, and it can take a village to help someone build it back up.
There is so much beauty in the world and in life, but for some, from time to time, it's a little tough to see. Reach out to help someone hang on, and don't forget that message yourself when times get tough.